Do We Have to Be Broken to Become Better?

Hi online friends! This one’s coming straight from the soul.

One night, it hit me while I was sitting on a small cozy brown chair with a feeling…

That weird mix of awareness, sadness, and gratitude.

And I couldn’t shake this question:

“Do we have to go through the bad just to become better?”

The honest truth?

Yeah. Sometimes, we do.

Not because we’re weak.

Not because we deserved the pain.

But because truth reveals itself in contrast.

You don’t realize how dim the room was

until someone opens a window.

You don’t know how heavy the silence was

until you finally speak.

And a lot of us, especially as women, especially as Deaf people. We were born into cycles.

Abuse. Control. Silence. Shame.

Passed down, covered up, normalized.

Generation after generation.

And still… we’re here.

Unlearning. Breaking the silence.

Getting louder. Brighter. Stronger.

I Used to Think Pain Was a Punishment.

Now? I see it as an awakening.

That man who used me, ghosted me, or played with my heart?

That wasn’t my final chapter.

That was my exit sign.

That season when I felt lost, depressed, or unsure who I even was?

That wasn’t weakness.

That was my soul rebuilding me from scratch.

And the best part?

I’m Closer to God Than I’ve Ever Been.

Not because I’m perfect.

Not because I followed every rule.

But because I finally listened.

I finally stopped chasing people, potential, or perfection…

and started chasing peace.

And God met me there, not in the glow-up photos, but in the quiet, raw, real moments where I let go of control.

If You’re Reading This and Feeling Heavy…

PLEASE KNOW you are not behind. You’re becoming.

You’re not too damaged. You’re divinely redirected.

Maybe the pain didn’t make sense before.

But one day, like me, you’ll look back and say:

“God, thank You. Because what I thought was breaking me… was actually saving me.”

🦋 Journal Prompt:

What “bad” moment are you still holding on to?

What did it secretly teach you about your power?